Integration of your inner parts is vital to freeing yourself from inner struggles. If 2 parts of of you(or more) are wanting opposite things then there is a big likelihood they have never met each other. Once you introduce different parts of yourself to each other they will workout how they can best help each other out and achieve all your goals and desires without compromising your security. Sure sometimes you will still need to push your comfort zone. That’s unavoidable if you really want to make positive lasting change in your life. I’m betting you do. If you did not want to create peace internally then you wouldn’t even be reading this writing. You’d refuse to admit that you need to sort out somethings that are going on inside you.
Many people including myself believe the external world always reflects your internal world. If your having some sort of difficulty externally you may fix it by starting internally. What believes or thoughts or values need to change internally for your happiness externally? This can also be seen on your body, the better food you put into it, internally, the better health you get externally. Are you loading your mind with junkfood? Watching too much tv and too much radio all the time is sure to fill you up with junk. News is aimed at getting higher ratings through shocking you. Are you trying to live up to an ideal image society has shown you? Are you trying to reach someone else’s goals? Perhaps some clever marketing plans convincing you that you may buy your happiness? I hope not.
Going beyond the perceived safety of your current lifestyle is essential to breaking out of old thinking and behavioral patterns. Learning is not necessarily gaining knowledge. Learning only happens when we actually change our behavior in contrast to the new information available. Once you begin to change your habits and thoughts into positive habits and positive thoughts your inner world will become a lot more peaceful. You can only feel and experience negative emotions when you have an expectation or judgement about something. Once there is no expectation there will be no emotional reaction. You have many tools that will help your inner world gain space and peace and as you transform internally your external world will catch on too. It may take a some amount of time but you will see the results you want once all parts of your mind have a common desire and you stop wasting your life energy on fighting yourself. In summary inner space is waiting for you to make peace with all parts of your mind and work towards a common goal.